DEAR DEIDRE: I KISSED one among my feminine pals for enjoyable, and seems my husband cherished it.
It was as if a hearth had sparked inside him.
On the time I didn’t suppose twice about it, however after some reflection, I’m beginning to surprise if there’s extra to his pleasure than I initially thought.
I’m 45, my husband is 50 and we’ve been married for 20 years.
Our relationship has all the time been nice however I can’t say we’ve ever been too explorative within the bed room.
I’ve by no means actually minded, however one thing shifted in me round two weeks in the past once I was on a women’ evening out.
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All of it occurred so quick, however I discovered myself drawn to my pal. Over the course of the evening, we bought nearer and nearer till we ended up sharing some passionate kisses.
We by no means spoke about it once more, however ever because it’s been enjoying on my thoughts.
I wasn’t certain if I ought to inform my husband, however I figured it might be higher to be sincere.
To my shock once I broke the information it was as if he had simply heard he received the lottery. He was overcome with pleasure and we ended up having mind-blowing intercourse.
I didn’t learn an excessive amount of into it, however over the previous few days, I’ve been beginning to surprise.
I’ve all the time had my suspicions that he and my pal could also be attracted to one another.
A couple of years in the past I had noticed them performing cagey, and it was across the identical time that my husband grew to become actually “busy” with work.
I can’t assist however fear that maybe they had been really having an affair.
May this be why he bought so excited?
DEIDRE SAYS: There’s no solution to know precisely what occurred except you converse to your husband. Speculating will solely trigger you extra ache.
Discover a second to talk actually and calmly along with your husband about your suspicions.
My help pack Man Dishonest On You? may help you method this dialog and discover the appropriate phrases to say.
Whereas it could possibly be possible that you’re improper, if it seems that your suspicions are appropriate you’ll must take some steps collectively to rebuild the belief in your relationship.
My help packs, Dishonest, Can You Get Over It? and Relationship MOT, will assist and take into consideration having {couples}’ counselling too.